Today in the news I heard the story of a PhD student accused of two accounts of rape, a burglary. and a threat to witness not to talk. Although it’s not news so far because it happens all the time, what caught my attention is the mention of the site Christian Mingle in the story. Christian mingle is the main sponsor of this blog, and over the years there were no complains of the site itself. That’s why I wanted to write about it.
Christian mingle is a dating site. Their job is to collect the information from the participants and then based on this info they suggest matches for every member according to what they have to offer and what they want in their match.
So far Christian mingle is like any other dating site. They collect the information and match the members.
The problem has nothing to do with Christian mingle, or any other dating site. All the dating sites work the same way, more or less. The threat is not from those sites in particular. The issue is the anonymous nature of the Internet.
Anyone can fake personal data and create a profile on a dating site. And if you remember the story of my friend who was a scam victim of a very famous and expensive website.
This incident of a man raping his date has nothing to do with the dating site, or the Internet. The person, if really guilty, is a rapist. If he can perform on a resisting victim it means he is aroused by her suffering. Normal people would be turned off with serious resistance.
I am assuming, and I could be wrong, that the rapist in the news above could have done it without the Internet, and without Christian mingle. If he starts dating a woman he knew from the church and got the opportunity to be with her alone he would have tried to rape her.
The point I want to prove to you is that a rapist is a rapist regardless of how he met his victim. It’s a personal behaviour and has nothing to do with technology.
If you agree with me on this point, you might as well wonder with me why did they name the dating site in the news. Is it an attempt to defame Christian mingle? It could be. Could it be an attempt to defame Christian dating sites (because they only mention the name of the site in the details, the headlines say “Christian dating site”) in favour of secular ones?